Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the state of society in general, and how it relates to my perception of society when I was growing up. The result of this line of thought, has left me feeling a mixture of anger, frustration, and sadness. I grew up in one world, but now I’m living it another, and there’s a lot about this other one that really pisses me off. I’ll go through some of my gripes here, in my usual stream-of-consciousness style! Heh, I’m pretending to have STYLE today! Go me!
First off, our kids are being groomed to be pansies by society. Go to a school and check out the programs, it’s ridiculous. No dodgeball was the start, now it turned into no competition….EVER! My nephew goes to school, and they’re having their field day this week. Problem is, they call it something different, and EVERYONE is on thesame team! Are you fucking kidding me?! What are we telling kids, here? “Don’t worry buddy, there’s no competitiveness in the real world, and it’s a concept you’ll never have to deal with.” Doing this to children just breeds a bunch of spoiled little fucks who end up as self-entitled pricks, who can’t handle what life throws at them, and who are not equipped to understand life in the ‘real world’. Thankfully, my nephew is also in tons of sports, and was raised to understand these things by his parents. But, as we all know, many parents today take little interest in the actual raising of their children. They seem more interested in themselves and their work than in preparing their children for survival on their own.
Speaking of which, the self-entitlement craze is getting WAY out of hand. People bitch and get hurt feelings if they don’t succeed at things or are passed over in any way. “Why not just work harder to get what you want?”, you say? Nonsense! I’d rather complain about how unfair it is. This doesn’t just relate to the workplace. TONS of people I know get horribly offended if they aren’t invited to something, or aren’t told about a particular happening. You seriously have got to be kidding me. If you aren’t invited to something, or aren’t told about something, then one of two things happened. Either you were missed unintentionally, or you were left out on purpose. If it’s the former, it’s an honest mistake, so accept it. Everyone makes them. If it was on purpose, then you deal the same way. Accept it. If everyone included everyone who “might” be interested in something, shit would get to be such a chore that they wouldn’t wanna do anything anymore! If I’m not invited to something, sure I might get upset or irritated, but I accept it and let it go. Do you know why? Because I’m a fucking adult, and that’s what grown ups do! So suck it up and rub some dirt in it!
This leads me into the next issue, one that started during my teens, and has since gotten WAY out of hand. Political correctness. This entire trend of being offended because someone said something that disagrees with what you personally feel or believe, it absolutely childish, stupid, and incredibly illogical. A big example of this is religion. If someone says they don’t believe in god, or if a teacher alludes to the fact that god might not have created everything, the believers get all up-in-arms about it. Guess what folks, it you didn’t have a doubt in your mind, they why is it offensive. If I believe in the love I have for my children, and someone says that they don’t believe in it, that doesn’t bother me one bit. Know why? It’s because I’m completely devout in that belief. If I wasn’t, it might prompt a response similar to those we see from these groups. The fact that some schools can’t teach about dinosaurs because it offends the creationists, sickens me to no end.
Next up, people playing the blame game. Blaming their parents and/or childhood for making them into the serial killer they become, or blaming those same things for their failures in life. Guess what folks, if you know that this shit is holding you back, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Personally, I went through some horrible shit when I was a kid, both at home and at school. You know what? I didn’t let it prevent me from trying my hardest to be a good person, because that’s what I WANTED to be. I wanted it so bad, that I strove for it regardless of what was in my way. I’m not saying I’m exceptional or anything, I’m saying that this should be normal! The problem is, people are fucking lazy as shit. They don’t wanna take responsibility for their own actions. They barely even wanna TAKE action to do for themselves. They seem to just want to sit on the couch watching TV, not caring, then blaming bullshit for their inadequacies. Suck it up, wake up, and do for yourself, cuz mommy and daddy won’t be around to bail your ass out forever!
***UPDATE*** The next section has been updated, since the initial posted did not include some very important specifics which clarify my position. This is what I get for posting stream of consciousness with a brain that runs too fast. My sincerest apologies to any who got the wrong impression.
Finally, fat people. Yeah, I know, I’ll be getting tons of hatemail for this section, but fuck it. People who let obesity run rampant, will suffer a loss of respect from me. Granted, there are exceptions to this rule, such as folks who are healthy and just big. I know a few people like that, and one in particular has more stamina and is more healthy than I’ve been in about a decade. I do understand that many factors affect or cause obesity, such as diet, how sedentary someone is, hormonal imbalance, genetics, metabolism, medication, and various psychological and/or medical issues. That being said, if you’re horribly overweight, and you aren’t or haven’t taken steps to rectify it, fucking do something about it!!! There’s a laziness in people, that I mentioned before, that just enables people to say ‘fuck it, I’m watching TV’ or whatever, and not taking care of themselves. Some even feel entitled to eat whatever they want, simply because they can. The reason this sickens me, in that it’s incredibly illogical. If you’re one of these people, you’re basically saying that this need to eat whatever you want, whenever you want, is more important than your health or longevity. You’ll end up killing yourself slowly, and for what? Food? Fuck that! I’d much rather live a longer life, and pass on the package of Oreos. This is much of the reason I have an issue with this. Normally, I can pretty much live and let live and not give a shit, but when what is acceptable in society can potentially take away those I care about the most, I get overcome with anger. I don’t want my friends or family to go before their time, and my frustration and fear is born from the idea that I have no control or power over it. I just watch people let it go, knowing that someday I’ll have to let them go, and for what?
Don’t get me wrong here, I don’t hate fat people. If someone is big and just can’t trim down no matter what, then what more could I ask? I DO have massive respect for the folks who see this shit, and do something about it. Some of my closest friends have weight problems, some really bad, and they finally said “screw this, I wanna be healthy and live a better life”, and are changing it. I’m proud to announce that they’re all doing very well, and are well on their way to optimal health. If you don’t choose to do anything about it, then you’re part of America’s problem, and that problem has little to do with your weight, and everything to do with why you have a weight problem.
To sum up, folks, I’ll just say this. Take control of your lives. Stop allowing acceptable excuses to enable your laziness and shitty behavior. What you want is out there, and a better life is out there. Get off your ass, pony up, and take it. Nobody gives a shit about giving you your dreams…other than you….
Last night, I watched this movie called Ten Inch Hero, about a group of young people working in a sandwich shop owned by an old hippie. Truth be told, I only found out about it because Jensen Ackles from Supernatural is in it, and he’s friggin hilarious. That being said, it’s pretty much a chick flick, but I enjoyed mostly all of it….except the end.
***SPOILER ALERT*** IF YOU HAVE ANY DESIRE TO WATCH THIS MOVIE, STOP READING!!! NOT THAT IT ISN’T TOTALLY PREDICTABLE, I WON’T BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR IRRITATION AT HAVING A MOVIE RUINED!!!
SO, Jensen’s character is a guy who is what most would consider a freak. Spiked up colored Mohawk, piercings, tattoos, etc… He has it bad for the local hottie, who bangs any hot guy who walks in, but won’t give him the time of day. We’ve all heard this shit before, he’s the good guy who’ll treat her right, but she doesn’t see him because she can’t get past his looks, etc….
At the end of the movie, after a particularly bad relationship, she lets on that she’d be interested in him. He ‘gets’ her by removing his piercings, dying his hair back to black, doing his hair nice, and wearing preppy clothes. He remains that way in the next few scenes that end the flick.
Basically, this movie, and many others that I’ve seen over the years, are saying that a “freak” can be beautiful and accepted if they just clean themselves up and dress like “normal people”. Basically, if how you look is part of how you express yourself or define yourself, you’ll have to give it up to be with someone outside of your “genre”, so to speak.
Seriously, what the fuck kind of statement is that?! As someone who dressed, looked, and acted very similarly to the character in this flick, I find this shit to be insanely insulting and fucked up. Nobody should have to be someone they’re not to be with the person they want to be with. If someone is too wrapped up in their public image to be with someone who expresses themselves differently, just because they may have to endure looks or comments from other people, then screw ’em! Another character in the movie, a girl who was “TV ugly”, which means she wasn’t ugly by normal people standards, but she was uglier than the knockouts in the rest of the flick, ended up with a good looking dude she met online. He saw her for who she was, and had absolutely no problem with the fact that she wasn’t the perfect beauty. She didn’t have to change, but the dude did?! Come on, people.
Oh, and don’t think it’s just guys that this happens to. There have been even more flicks with girls who start out as the geeky, unattractive outcast and end up being drop dead gorgeous in the end so they can get their dream guy. Christ, just look at Cinderella. She’s a peasant, not worth shit, until she cleans up and brings the prince to attention. Then he’s all about her. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that looks aren’t important, they are. Anyone who tells you differently would be lying….and probably ugly. Looks are what attracts us initially, but in many of these cases, these people have seen their eventual love interests before. They only end up with them after the switch is made.
Now I’m well aware that this post is just ranting, and a bit ‘stream of consciousness’, but fuck it! Isn’t that what blogging is for?! These are the reasons I won’t be a pro….unless I sell out, then they’ll all love me!
There was also a great conversation in this about ugly people vs pretty people that really hit home for me. Very true, and very sobering. I tried to find the script somewhere online, but it’s nowhere to be found in the 15 seconds I spent looking. So, I watched the scene again and transcribed it for your enjoyment. It’s worth the read. For background, Piper is the pretty sweet girl-next-door, Tish is the super hot chick, and Jen is the shy “ugly” chick. This is after Jen went to meet someone she met online for the first time, and they’ve never seen each other. Jen saw him, and he was good looking, so she ran out without approaching him whatsoever.
Tish: What I saw, was just a guy looking for the girl of his dreams.
Jen: A guy like that doesn’t dream about a girl like me.
Tish: Is this about how cute he was? I mean, I thought you’d be happy, not to mention pretty damn relieved.
Piper: Besides, you said that looks don’t matter.
Jen: Yeah, that was before I knew he was Brad-fucking-Pitt! There’s no way a guy who looks like that is gonna want me.
Tish: That’s crazy!
Jen: Is it? I mean look at Tad. When he came into the shop, he didn’t exactly B-line to me, did he?
Piper: Yeah, but Tad is a superficial dickhead, everybody knows that. Everyone except Tish….sorry.
Jen: I mean…girls that look like you, don’t understand. Ya know, I always think, like, if I lost 10 lbs or, wore different clothes or, got new boobs that it would make a difference, but I know the truth…
Tish: I’m sorry, but that’s bullshit. You’re the smartest person that I know. I see you helping those homeless guys that no one can even look at. You make everyone around you happy. You have so much to offer, I mean to say you don’t because of how you look…is just bullshit.
Jen: I didn’t say I didn’t have a lot to offer, I said that people will never know because they don’t see me. How many proms did you miss because no one asked you? How many times have your friends left you sitting alone at a club while they went and danced with guys? Or how many times has a customer completely ignored you to get a better look at me? So until that happens…until you’re told time and time again that your place in life is in the background, don’t tell me it’s bullshit…because you don’t know.
Piper: All I saw tonight was a man with eyes full of hope.
Jen: Hope….that would’ve turned to disappointment the second he saw me. Forced smile, polite conversation….god, I couldn’t stand that. Not after all this.
Awhile ago, I posted a video of a scripted animated sequence done by Quantic Dream, the game studio that made Heavy Rain. The video blew my mind, and I watched it repeatedly, marveling at how awesome it was (and still is).
Now, at E3, they released the trailer for their next game, Beyond – Two Souls, and it’s fucking incredible. Check out the video below, featuring Ellen Page as the main character.